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Free Intro Call
$0 30 minutes
You get: a man to say it out loud to, and a clear next step.
A video call about where you are, what you want, and whether coaching is a good fit. It's a conversation.
Divorce recovery coaching for men
You don't have to rebuild alone.
The house is quiet. The fog won't lift. And you've told everyone you're "fine."
You go to work, you show up for your kids, and then you're alone with your thoughts at 3 AM. You don't have to figure out what comes next by yourself. Talk with a man who's been there, and get in a room with other men who get it.
Book your free 30-minute intro call (opens Cal.com in another tab)
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You'll leave the call with a next step, even if it isn't me. Not ready to talk? Grab Five Steps to Break Out of Isolation, free.
"He has personally helped me navigate significant life transitions... He truly cares about the people he coaches and the quality of their lives."
Where you are right now
- You're living in a place that doesn't feel like home yet, and the nights are the hardest part.
- You go to work, you show up for your kids, and then you're alone with your thoughts.
- Friends mean well, but they don't get it, and you're tired of telling everyone you're "fine."
- You don't recognize the man in the mirror, and you're not sure who you are outside the marriage.
- You know you need to move forward, but you don't know where to begin.
Still in the middle of it, or years out and still carrying it: if you nodded at even one of those, you're in the right place.
What changes
Here's the road when you stop carrying this alone: heat, hammer, temper.
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The heat
You come out of hiding.
You say out loud what's really going on, you have a plan for your hardest hours, and you reach out to one man that first week. You don't heal in hiding.
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The hammer
You rebuild one piece at a time.
Your routine and health, the anger and resentment, your kids and the people still in your life, and who you are outside the marriage. Each week ends with one concrete commitment.
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Tempered
You walk away with a plan you own.
A written plan in your own words for the road ahead: relationships, fatherhood, work, and purpose. The work is yours, and you have men in your corner while you do it.
Every man's road is different. Results vary and aren't guaranteed.
You're not the only one
No man is alone. Every man in these rooms has sat where you're sitting: the quiet house, the 3 AM ceiling, the "I'm fine." When we get together, we stop performing and start telling the truth. These are your brothers in this.
A blacksmith doesn't throw away broken steel. He heats it, hammers it, and reforges it into something stronger than it was. Divorce is the fire. What comes out of it is up to you, and you don't have to swing the hammer alone.
See The Forge Circle Or book a free intro call (opens Cal.com in another tab)
Pick the next step that fits you
Not sure which one? Talk to me first. It's free, and you'll leave with a next step either way.
Next group · Nov 5 – Dec 17
The Forge Circle
$197 or 2 x $99 early enrollment through Oct 30, then $297
You get: a handful of men who get it, six weeks in a row.
Six Thursdays, 6:00 to 7:30 PM CT, on Google Meet: Nov 5, 12, 19, Dec 3, 10, 17 (no call Thanksgiving). Camera on or off, your call. Come as you are.
One focused session
The Reset
$195 60 minutes
You get: one private 60-minute session, and you leave with a written plan for your next 30 days.
Bring what's weighing on you most.
6 weeks of one-on-one coaching
Reforged
$1,095 or 2 payments of $550
Early enrollment rate for the first 5 men.
You get: a guide in your corner for six weeks, and a written 90-day plan you own.
Six weekly one-on-one sessions with Jay Garrett, plus a written 90-day plan you leave with, for men who are ready to do the work.
- 6 weekly 60-minute 1:1 coaching sessions by video call
- Weekday text and voice-note support between sessions
- The Reclaim Your Identity 30-Day Roadmap built into your plan
- A personalized, written 90-day plan at the end
Not ready to talk yet? Begin here.
Free guide
Five Steps to Break Out of Isolation
Your first-week game plan for getting back among people after divorce. Five steps, one small action a day, over seven days. No therapy-speak and no lectures.
Get the free guide (opens Gumroad in another tab)
$17 printable
Reclaim Your Identity: 30-Day Roadmap
A 15-minute morning routine and one specific step every day for 30 days, plus a printable tracker. Week one gets you moving. The next 30 days rebuild who you are.
Get the Roadmap ($17) (opens Gumroad in another tab)
Who's on the other end of the call
I'm Jay Garrett, a divorce recovery coach for men. My marriage ended in 2004, and I've walked alongside men going through divorce ever since. I'm a Texas lawyer by training, so I know how divorce works on paper, and I know how it works on you. As your coach I'm not your lawyer, and I don't give legal advice.
A minute with Jay
Why I do this, and what a first call looks like. Ready to talk? Book a free intro call.
FAQ
Is this therapy?
No. Coaching is forward-focused: goals, habits, accountability, and a plan. It isn't therapy or counseling and doesn't diagnose or treat any mental health condition. If therapy would serve you better, I'll tell you. Many men do both.
Is this legal advice? You're a lawyer.
No. I'm a Texas lawyer, but I'm not acting as your lawyer, and coaching doesn't create an attorney-client relationship. For questions about your case or settlement, please work with your own family law attorney.
I'm still in the middle of my divorce. Is it too early?
No. Many men find coaching most useful during the process, when stress is highest and decisions matter most.
What if I'm 5 or 10 years out?
That works too. Some men carry it for years. It's never too late to reforge.
How do sessions work?
By video call, at a time you book online. You'll get a calendar invite and the link automatically.
Is this connected to Lifeboat Austin?
Lifeboat Austin is a men's divorce support group I co-founded. This coaching is a separate, one-on-one service, and it isn't part of Lifeboat.
You don't have to figure this out alone.
A 30-minute conversation with a man who's been there. You'll leave with a next step, even if it isn't me. No man is alone, and neither are you.
Book a free intro call (opens Cal.com in another tab)